Is This True?

There are things we are told that have been repeated so many times that they sound absolutely true. But are they? Take things like:

You need to love yourself!

That’s right, just love yourself! Everything will fall into place. All the toxic people will magically disappear because your newfound level of self-respect will command that. Only the good ones will be attracted to you. Everything will align, money will come in easily, and of course love will manifest itself. In slow-motion, just like in a rom-com.

What do you mean you don’t seem to be able to do it? Try harder! Love. Yourself. Now.

If only that was so easy.

Self-love is not just a switch we turn on. And if you keep pushing me you’re going to make me self-hate because I don’t self-love enough. 

Or worse.

I’ll lie myself into faking it, go shout my self-love on social media because there really is no better place for it. I’ll pretend to adore myself the just the way I am while denying myself moments of doubt, moments of down, moments o…