No Botox
I haven’t done any Botox for months, and my face is fully operational.
I’ve just been too busy with life, and beauty has been the least of my concerns.
So times passed and I…
Quite like it, even though I can see that a few more months of this and my frown line will be as deep as Emrata’s cleavage. Then you might see me sprinting to the first injector I find.
But I like feeling natural, even if it means that I do look older.
I don’t really know what “looking young” means for a woman my age anyway.
I think that over-pumping with fillers and over-freezing with Botox creates a certain type of face. A face that was already slightly confusing about fifteen years ago, but now betrays a middle-aged woman who is negotiating very intensely with time.
To me, there’s a threshold. Your forties are a great decade to experiment with trying to look thirty. By fifty, though, something has got to give—you have to let age in.
I don’t want to look thirty forever. Also I know I don’t. Even though it’s not always easy getting older, I’d like to embody my age. I respect every woman’s choice, and actually think a good facelift is sometimes the best option.
Maybe I’ll do it one day, but right now I like the de-freeze, and I’d like to look like one of these mature women who walk the Chanel show. Unbothered by their aging. Like they don’t need to be reassured about who they are. At home in their skin.
I’m happy that I’m getting there. It took a while to free myself of that pressure to be young. I still succumb to it sometimes.
But today, as long as I feel fresh and radiate good energy, that’s beautiful enough for me.
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You look so beautiful! And not older. Just more ‘natural’ and personally and I like it. I can’t and will not speak of course for all of the women but the friends I have at fortyfour that use botox and fillers don’t look a year younger. They have no wrinkles, that’s true, but youthness in your face comes from many more things we can’t control or adjust. Personally I often find that people with botox/fillers have something ‘strange’ going on around the nose and eyes when they try to laugh. So I really really don’t understand why sooooo many women want botox and filler. I think we get really ‘brainwashed’ by marketing, ads, social media and so on. I love beauty and use moisturizers and serums and treatments and use make-up and buy (too) many clothes,yes I’m vain 😄, but really honest: I don’t see the link between botox/fillers and beauty/youth. (Sorry if my writing lacks nuance and my words are not well chosen, I’m no native english speaker)
Whenever I see you I think of how you made my daughter feel she was in 7th heaven... In 2012 we went to fashion week in Paris. She was a 23-year-old fashionista. You were her idol. We got to see a talk that you did at the Apple store.
The next day she happened to walk by your car when you were stepping out and you called out to her, and asked her if you could take some photos. A clip of her crossing the street in a black puffer coat with a tall collar made it into one of your intros.
But the icing on the cake was when you said goodbye and thanked her & gave her a kiss on the cheek. 😁🙃
It really made her fashion week experience unforgettable.
She ran a clothing store for the next few years and built up 10,000 followers online. But covid took her business out and she ended up getting obsessed with whales and she now is a naturalist on a whale watching boat and doesn't do any fashion stuff... She got burned out on it, although she, of course, is still very stylish.