The Note #49
The Woman I Want To Be
Recently I’ve really been trying to be a bit more feminine in the way I dress. It’s hard. Comfort (and by comfort I mean oversize jeans, flat shoes, chunky sweaters and absolutely not a worry in the world about a hole in my stockings or feeling slowed down by a heel) has this way of taking over your life, and then anything tight feels like a betrayal to your freedom of movement.
But the rewards of making an effort are tremendous—it’s like suddenly I stand taller, my husband looks happy*, I am more organized**, I hold myself to higher standards*** and I am treated better everywhere I go.
But also, more simply, when I am more polished, I feel like I am the woman I want to be, which, okay this is going to sound weird, but as I am turning 50 next year, I feel like I’d better embody that “woman I want to be” sooner than later or else soon she’ll just be “the woman I would have quite liked to be, if only soft clothes hadn’t been so darn comfortable.” You know what I mean?
Let’s see how I do, now that I am going to be in Paris more often, and much less in the mud in Somerset. I even just bought a new pair of heels! OMG, I’m excited!
*So predictable, but if you look at the bright side it means he’s very easy to please!
**This is not even a joke, I start making better lists, and acting on them!
***Sweatpants, you literally drag me down.
Here is a selection of some of my inspiration :)
My last Letter is about a French man and a French woman (you guessed—me!) having a heated talk and how I let go of my people-pleasing tendencies.
I my last Note, I share a podcast interview and I talk about taking action and forging your own path.
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Big kisses from Paris and have a wonderful day!
Bonjour! I had slumped fully into casual wear as I'm an artist and always covered in oil paint. But 18 months ago I got ovarian cancer, and as I went through chemo etc I started taking lots of care in my clothes and turbans. I started dressing in more colour and that's continued now I'm well again. I loooooove a beautiful shirt dress. In Auckland at the moment it's so humid. But some metallic berkies and a semi sheer shirt dress and I'm happy. Oh and I have this cool new curly grey hair! Tres chic ;) You always look a million francs G x
That photo so perfectly embodies the “femme” vibe you’re writing about. I personally love that look — it was def my collegiate vibe — but now the thought of a mini skirt feels laughable and the idea of mustering up the outfit feels like a massive undertaking. Part of this is because I, like you’ve said, am so much happier in cozy clothes!